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Florencia Ornelas's avatar

I have been meaning to write about this very same topic! All my best friends live far away and in the past three years since being away, we have found new ways of building and evolving our friendship. I feel loved by them even with all that distance ❤️

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

I'd love to read about your experience with long distance friendships! Finding friends that make you feel like there's no difference between you is a surreal feeling ❤️

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Caroline from the Wild's avatar

About time is my absolute favorite movie of all time!!! You can't miss with Richard Curtis movies!!!

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

About time, noted!!!! I can't wait to watch :))))

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Giorgia's avatar

so grateful to have a text of mine in 'Things Worth Your Attention' at the bottom of this wonderful piece about friendship!! Always send you lots of virtual hugs while looking forward to meeting properly!! 🫂🤍

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

You will always be on my list Giorgia! I loveeeee reading your newsletter 🫂 So many virtual hugs back to you and hopefully one day we'll share a coffee together!!! Maybe if you ever end up in Spain ;) ❤️

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Zoe Elisabeth's avatar

Such a good point! I feel like the thing that always becomes frustrating with long-distance friendships is the way we end up only talking really occasionally, and so it mostly just consists on catching up the major highlights of our lives, while I see my friends who live in the same place as me in all this really mundane everyday moments that make it feel like I know them more. I love that you're able to do that even with your friends who live farther away!

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Sometimes it takes a lot of effort but the quick messages are what keeps the friendship alive in the end, otherwise we're constantly waiting for a twi hour catch up call which is of course a lot harder to arrange :( Either way, it's hard, but can be done <3

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Michelle Elisabeth Varghese's avatar

I loved this so much! I feel like people ask me how I have so many close friends and the truth is I’m lucky to have attracted people who love these small shares that you described. It seemed inconsequential ten years ago, and now I see how it laid a foundation for my closest relationships

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

I totally get you! I've been really lucky finding this type of people as my friends too, they really have taught me how to be a better friend which I'll forever be grateful for

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Marco Marquez's avatar

I really loved this one. A lot of my closest friends live in other states and I think about them all the time but don’t let them know that as often as I should

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Thank you so much Marco, sorry for the late reply, I'm not great at keeping up with notifications maybe that's why I appreciate my friends sending me quick messages full of love that don't always lead to deep conversations :P I hope my essay inspired you to reach out to your long distance friends

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Marco Marquez's avatar

It really did and no apologies for the reply! It’s a honor to get a message back, wishing you well ♥️

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Dizzy Zaba's avatar

This post made me so happy to see the real specific, tangible examples of things you've sent your friends. It's really what makes those micro-day-to-day-interactions-across-distance so magical, is that they are very personal to the person you are sending them to and wouldn't land the same for someone else!

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

I’m so pleased you enjoyed it 💗 thank you 🥹

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nikki p's avatar

Are you me??? I have never encountered something that felt so relatable re: friendship. I thought I failed at being a human being

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

You don’t fail, it’s just hard sometimes ❤️‍🩹

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Shaan's avatar

This was a very personaly moving read for me, thank you for the words you put to down for some feelings that I wasn't able to express on my own.

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Thank you for reading, I’m so glad it resonated 💗

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Lauren's avatar

I’m so glad this found me! Hit a lot of points with me, especially with my bestie living far away, and having similar childhood friendship experiences. It’s been wonderful to look at my current friendships and feel so comfortable.

I recommend Elizabethtown!! I haven’t seen it in forever but I feel it fits within your vein of recs😁

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Love the recommendation! I’ve taken note! 🤍

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Caoilainn Lander's avatar

This is my favourite thing you’ve ever written, Emily. I relate so much, I have felt every single thing you so beautifully described. Amazing!

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

This means a lot, thank you so much Caoilainn 🥹

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ebun's avatar

this was so lovely, as someone with majority of her bestfriends living far away this just reminded me how important the postcards and little gestures really are ❤️

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

They really are! I can't tell you how many times I've opened my letter box feeling sad and have left crying of joy with a postcard or a letter in my hands 😭

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Andrea's avatar

ay es que te amo!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

yo te amo más ❤️❤️❤️

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iria's avatar

Qué texto tan bonito! En el último año he pesando muchísimo en lo que significa la amistad. Por desgracia me identifico mucho con lo que cuentas y me alegro de que poco a poco vayamos saliendo (y escapando) de esos patrones. Tu lista de rom-coms es perfecta! P.D. no es solo rom-com, pero si no la has visto todavía, tienes que ver About time! ❤️‍🩹

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Ay! Qué guay! Otra chica me ha recomendado justo esa película, es señal de que tengo que verla sí o sí! ❤️

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Júlia Navarro's avatar

precioso y extremadamente cierto ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 ojalá pronto tomarnos un matcha cara a caraaaaaa 🍵

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

Dicho y hecho!!!!!!! Te invito yo! ❤️

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teresa avendaño's avatar

varias cosas que quiero comentar:

1. le he pasado tu carta a mi mejor amiga que también vive lejos🫂

2. me he sentido taaan identificada. también creo que cuando nos hacemos adultas conseguimos cruzarnos con las personas que nos habrían querido en el colegio.

3. tu orden de películas es casi igual al que habría elegido yo 🥹

4. mil millones de gracias por la mención!!

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Emily Hubbard's avatar

varias cosas que te quiero contestar:

1. me hace una ilusión tremenda que hayas compartido este pomelo con tu amiga ❤️

2. tienes toda la razón, y la espera merece la pena cuando llegan las personas adecuadas.

3. me alegro que una novata de romcoms como yo haya elegido bien!

4. mañana el pomelo es gracias a ti 🫂

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