Thanks for sharing your story! It's really nice to hear a perspective in which the not-in-sync periods are common and normal in a loving relationship. I'm similarly a step ahead in my relationship and am only just realising that "the wait" isn't intrinsically bad. It's a place of being sure that the person I am with is the right for me. If you look at it without external pressures; it's a lovely place to be at. So where is the rush, really? The rush could be a result of insecurity and not trusting that your chosen one is doing their thing to hopefully at a certain point be in sync with you. Which... is just painful and pointless. So thanks for sharing your view on it! Makes me feel like I'm not a lone and it's actually a pretty cool club. :D
Everyone has their pace and we sometimes get caught up in thinking it all has to be 50-50, and a lot of the time it isn’t, and that’s ok too. I’m glad you enjoyed this essay, thank you for leaving a comment! 🫂
Honestly, and this is gonna be very personal, brief romance with a polyamorous guy in his thirties (I was 23) thought me a lot about relationship, expressing and fulfilling our needs, and learning that true, healthy love doesn’t require “merging” into one - it’s about meeting somewhere inbetween and doing relationships the way the couple (or… polycule) wants and feels best. To move in together, to marry, to have children, to have shared finances - those are called “relationship escalator”, often imposed by the society. Ditch the external pressures and do relationships how you and your partner want, in your own ways, at your own pace!
I just woke up and this is the most beautiful, raw and amazing piece I read in a while. It’s incredible the way you expressed yourself and your relationship with words, I feel like my eyes are completely open now.
“When you’re in your luteal phase” sent me 😆 Great, honest piece!
Made me wonder if you’ve heard of human design? It’s possible that when you’re together, your partner energetically “connects” your chart, and you don’t connect his.
There’s nothing wrong with it, just something validating and nice to be aware of! To find this out you could get your charts for free at jovianachive.com and compare the two.
It’s been a big help in my current relationship :-)
I do know about human design and had mine done, it's really interesting. However in the reading there was no relationship part so I have no idea + my partner hasn't had his done. I'll look it up though! Although I may not understand it all because man is it complex without someone to go through it with you haha.
I much rather make you the ring than buy you the ring. Apart from that, I'm glad that our random but common friend helped me put a face to "Emily".
I’m so lucky, but so are you so we’re both blessed
Thanks for sharing your story! It's really nice to hear a perspective in which the not-in-sync periods are common and normal in a loving relationship. I'm similarly a step ahead in my relationship and am only just realising that "the wait" isn't intrinsically bad. It's a place of being sure that the person I am with is the right for me. If you look at it without external pressures; it's a lovely place to be at. So where is the rush, really? The rush could be a result of insecurity and not trusting that your chosen one is doing their thing to hopefully at a certain point be in sync with you. Which... is just painful and pointless. So thanks for sharing your view on it! Makes me feel like I'm not a lone and it's actually a pretty cool club. :D
Everyone has their pace and we sometimes get caught up in thinking it all has to be 50-50, and a lot of the time it isn’t, and that’s ok too. I’m glad you enjoyed this essay, thank you for leaving a comment! 🫂
Honestly, and this is gonna be very personal, brief romance with a polyamorous guy in his thirties (I was 23) thought me a lot about relationship, expressing and fulfilling our needs, and learning that true, healthy love doesn’t require “merging” into one - it’s about meeting somewhere inbetween and doing relationships the way the couple (or… polycule) wants and feels best. To move in together, to marry, to have children, to have shared finances - those are called “relationship escalator”, often imposed by the society. Ditch the external pressures and do relationships how you and your partner want, in your own ways, at your own pace!
You're completely right <3
Oh wow
I read every single word
Very much relatable especially since social media is getting to confuse us about,'who an ideal guy is"
The main goal is someone who makes us happy and brings out our inner child.
Thank you, Sekemi :) And you're totally right!
I will always admire you guys and the way you go about things. Always.
This means so much to us, thank you friend. We miss you <3
Ah! This is so wholesome and sweet and it makes my heart ache in the sweetest way possible. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU
Awh! Thank you! 💙
Emily! You have so much wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you for reading!
I just woke up and this is the most beautiful, raw and amazing piece I read in a while. It’s incredible the way you expressed yourself and your relationship with words, I feel like my eyes are completely open now.
Thank you so much.
This is such a beautiful comment, thank you so much! My heart is full! 🥹
“When you’re in your luteal phase” sent me 😆 Great, honest piece!
Made me wonder if you’ve heard of human design? It’s possible that when you’re together, your partner energetically “connects” your chart, and you don’t connect his.
There’s nothing wrong with it, just something validating and nice to be aware of! To find this out you could get your charts for free at jovianachive.com and compare the two.
It’s been a big help in my current relationship :-)
I do know about human design and had mine done, it's really interesting. However in the reading there was no relationship part so I have no idea + my partner hasn't had his done. I'll look it up though! Although I may not understand it all because man is it complex without someone to go through it with you haha.
It sure is! There are some good resources / people on IG though.
this was so beautifully written and showed up on my feed at the perfect time, when i needed to hear it most. thank you so much for sharing ❤️
I’m glad it found you at the right time ❤️
Thank you for such insight and warmth. Learning from and leaning into your story.
Thank you for reading and for leaving me a comment 🩶
this was so so lovely xx ❤️
🥹🥹🥹 thank you so much Ebun
Absolutely love this ❣️
Thank you so much 🥹❤️
This was such as sweet read, ♥︎ all the love and health for you ♥︎♥︎♥︎
Thank you, Duna 🩷
This really resonated with me ❤️❤️ beautifully written
Thank you sm Emily 🥹🫂
Precious would be an understatement, LOVED this
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart ♥️