69. Do it when you don't feel like doing it.

Be your own best friend.

When you don’t feel like doing anything it’s probably when you need to do it the most. There are always exceptions and I’m all for resting and letting yourself “not do” when you need to disconnect. But I’m talking about those moments in which you can’t be bothered to do your exercise, you can’t be bothered to journal, you can’t be bothered to dance to music, you can’t be bothered to brush your hair… all of those things you normally do to take care of yourself. It could be anything, each person has their own way of doing things: meditating, doing yoga, going swimming, taking supplements, reading a book, calling a friend, going for a walk, watching a cute film, listening to their favourite music, etc. 

When you’re in that “meh, what for?” mood, you probably need it more than ever. Something I’m learning is that I can show up for myself in many different ways and when I’m feeling like I’d rather scroll on my phone and be like “fuck it”, I actually benefit a lot more from doing some of my take-care-of-myself-things. 

I’ve not read a page of my book this week (wow, it feels okay to say that) but I have been journaling every day. I haven’t cleaned the house but I have had magnesium baths, eye masks and skin care routines every day. I haven’t been out running or played tennis this week, but I’ve done a big clear out and hauled boxes all over the place to have peace of mind. 

I’ve done things that I needed to do and in the long run helped my mind be in a positive space. Sometimes it’s hard and you really don’t want to do anything but we deserve some care and some love. If our best friend was feeling down and sat in bed spending hours scrolling in pijamas, we’d try to help them get up, have a cute bath or shower, have clean hair, wear a comfy cute outfit, go for a walk outdoors, eat something nourishing and yummy, drink a warm cup of tea, make them smile and give them a big hug; so why don’t we do that when we’re that friend who’s feeling down? It feels so much easier to care for someone else.

I’ve been learning that I can take care of myself, I myself can be that friend who gives me love, I can express my needs and feelings in my journal, I can give myself what I need to get out of a slump, I can show up for myself.

It doesn’t always have to be 100% and it doesn’t always have to be “everything or nothing”, sometimes doing one thing on our list can cause a big impact in our day.

(Insert new Miley Cyrus song here)

Stay positive and stay optimistic, happy Winter, happy Monday and remember, we’re in this together ❤️‍🩹

See you next Monday :)