55. Friends appear when you least expect it.
Sociability is a cycle.
This newsletter, or as I call it: POMELO, turned 1 year old last week. Technically it can’t grow older so we could say that I’ve been living through my writing for one whole year.
I’ve received messages and comments from some of you congratulating me and (here she comes again with her gratitude speech) it has made my heart expand beyond horizons and I feel like the most fortunate person alive.
Friendship can sprout at any moment.
Feeling so loved and supported had me thinking about a conversation I had on the phone with Fran around two years ago. I remember telling her that I felt alone and that I didn’t have many friends. I also remember telling her that I found it very difficult to actually make new friends. She replied by telling me that when it was the right time, I would attract the right people for me and oh boy, was she right.
Without knowing how, through POMELO I’ve met people from all over Spain and different countries and some of them now are literally my best friends. I speak to them every day and we care for each other, when I think about this I feel gobsmacked because it’s pretty crazy really.
Again, I feel very fortunate and grateful for the people I have as my friends and support system nowadays but it wasn’t always like that. In the past I felt very alone, misunderstood, without a crowd, no one to be me with and it sucked. Looking back I now feel as if I needed to be alone during that period of my life because I needed to find myself and learn how to grow, to be with myself, to listen to my inner voice and become more confident in my own skin. After that, everything has happened effortlessly. Some people call it “serendipity” (I have that tattooed on my arm, gross, but I’ve come to find that it’s true).
When it feels like life is against you and nothing is working out as “it’s supposed to”, give it and yourself some time and room because everything comes sooner or later.
Girls vs. Boys and cycles.
I never had girl-friends growing up and I found it too difficult and complicated to get along with them until not long ago (and by not long ago, I mean 1 year ago), but for some reason I’m now surrounded by amazing, inspiring girl power. I’m thankful that we found each other and for deciding to walk this part of life together. I never imagined life and friendship could be so special and taste so sweet.
Life flows in cycles, sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. This can also translate into: sometimes we’re social butterflies and sometimes we’re hermit crabs, both polar opposites are necessary, helpful and natural. There have been periods of my life in which I really craved being alone and there have been other periods in which I would hop on the first train to see my friends or find any moment I could to call a friend. If you’re going through a time in which you find it impossible to make new friends or to feel connected to other people, maybe it’s just not your moment. Maybe your focus is needed elsewhere and when your next cycle comes around, you’ll be ready for social interaction.
Cycles are healthy and no matter how alone we feel, we never totally are. You will always have friends or in some cases, a family member to help you whenever you need it. You may even find that a total stranger is there at the right time, but no matter what, you’re never alone (if you don’t want to be).
Human interaction can be a very beautiful thing when nurtured. I’m grateful for the dry season because now I’m living in a fucking rainforest of love.
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See you next Monday at 7:34 a.m.